We can't wait until we are perfect before we give ourselves permission to let go of the last drops of shame that infect us. We need to work with God towards its healing. If one of the healthy attitudes towards all our other emotions is that we feel our feelings, stay with them at times, or be in our emotions, shame is an exception to this. It is of no help to allow the experience of shame to linger for any length of time. A healthy amount of self-talk is necessary at these times reminding us of the truth.