As we move towards a loving self-acceptance, and endeavour to be more authentically "me" (the person that God created me to be, not the adaptive, accommodating me), the presence of shame will resist this process. Shame can become so entwined in the very fabric of who we are that being free of it can feel like an impossible task. Much of our adaptive patterns of behaviour have come to be as a way of keeping our shame at bay and preventing others from knowing the shame that we experience about ourselves. Being different, changing our ways of relating, and experiencing the accompany feeling of shame at times, is a difficult part of the initial movements towards self.